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This website is dedicated to psychogenealogy
and graphology.
Psychogenealogy is a new field in psychology
which allows us to better understand our family history
and to discover connections from the past with our
present life.
It is a topic on which I have co-written a book
with Pascale Reynaud, "Sur la piste de nos ancêtres"
which means 'On
our ancestors' tracks'.
Usually, genealogy consists in collecting names
and dates and organizing them in chronological order.
These items may be interesting in themselves, but they
really have meaning when the links between them are
discovered and we begin to understand the secret
connections with what is happening in our lives. For
example let us take recurring dates: we may notice,
while looking at our family tree, that some dates come
back more than once. For instance, someone may have died
at an early age on July 1st and on another year someone
is born also on July 1st. That someone with the similar
birth date may be tasked during their life to complete
what their ancestor was unable to accomplish because of
early death.
Exploring our family tree can free us from repeating
situations from the past.
In order to do that you have to make a real enquiry
about your family and collect information concerning
your parents and their brothers ans sisters,
grand-parents and great-grand-parents on both sides,
with birth, wedding and death dates and places and
whenever possible handwritings and signatures as well as
pictures. With this you will be able to put together the
pieces of the puzzle, build your genealogical tree and
make sense out of it.
The problems of the past are very often repeated again
and again in our present lives, especially when we are
not aware of what happened before. That is why we put
this quote at the beginning of the book: 'to ignore
one's past is to be condemned to live it all over
again.'
A common example is when men die before the age of
forty, whether through wars, diseases, accidents or
divorce, leaving their wives and children alone. Very
often the same situations keep on repeating themselves
through generations. Not only do problems keep repeating
themselves, but also unfulfilled aspirations are passed
on to the next generation, of course unconsciously.
There is a family unconscious to which each member of a
family is connected and which contains the memory of
everything that has happened in that particular family.
Anything that is unconscious will try to become
conscious. That is why a situation that has been kept
secret will tend to happen again in the lives of new
generations. It is always a problem if what really
happened is not known. Secrets or ignorance are poisons
that will lead us to reproduce the same tragedies over
and over again. That is why it is very important to get
to know our family's history. Of course that requires
some kind of detective work as we have to find the
birth, death and wedding certificates and collect all
possible verbal testimonies on what happened and then
cross check all the information.
Hopefully, we only have to go back five generations,
which means about a hundred years.
There really are time cycles and as we study our family
tree we will notice that some anniversaries may
reactivate unsolved problems. For example 10 years, 50
years, 100 years might be crucial milestones marking
times when problems of the past may reoccur. Identifying
precisely the problem and its cause way back then will
allow us and our children to be free from these
repetitions. So it is really useful, and results show up
very quickly.
In fact, anytime something is going wrong in one's life
it is useful to do a genealogical enquiry and analysis.
Of course I have been through my own family tree and, as
a graphologist, I have studied every single piece of
handwriting I could lay my hands on and therefore I
realised how much graphology brings to the understanding
of our family history.
Graphology helps in many ways:
The first and most obvious use of graphology is to
analyse the handwritings of one of our ancestors when we
find letters or other written documents (notebooks,
recipes, address books etc).
This is really interesting because we don't necessarily
have an accurate vision of who they really were through
the stories we heard about them in the family.
Handwriting analysis will help us understand fully this
person with their bad and good aspects.
We need to know exactly who our ancestors were in order
to be able to become different from them and become
ourselves. We are not here just to repeat our ancestors'
lives, but to realize our uniqueness and create
something new. In order to do that we need to know
exactly what happened in the past and that will enable
us to stop repeating the same unfit family
scenario.
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